It's around1:30 am here (3:30 am back at home)... and it just dawned on me that we've only known Mercer for about 28 hours. We're beginning on day 2 for us (day 4 for him) -- and we're making it through so far!! We've had a request (per the comments on the last blog) to add more pictures. For some reason most of the ones we took on Tuesday were blurry, but I have one here to add that is pretty clear (except the hands and feet look like they're in motion as Mercer was rolling over). I think he felt a little "exposed" b/c we took off his gown and snapped a few shots with him in only his Onesie. I wanted to show the world how little he really is! Skinny little legs and arms (although you don't see them too often as he's still very curled up)... and those fingers and toes... yes, they are SO long! Someone said he could play piano or basketball with those long fingers. (Did I mention earlier that the birth father is 6'-10" ?!) Todd - thinking about baseball, of course - said he could make a good pitcher & really control the ball with those fingers. Oh - I envision hours upon hours of the two of them throwing a baseball around!
We'll try to get some better pics Wednesday and post them probably late Wednesday night!
We're not getting as freaked out by his every sound, every whimper, every sigh. We are growing into things a bit more. Per the reassuring emails and comments on the blog, I guess we're going things ok so far. Figuring out a lot of stuff as we go along b/c we didn't have a lot of time to read up on stuff before his arrival. I did sound a little nervous in last night, but we've been reading our baby's owner's manual throughout the day and we're getting more comfortable with things. Yes -- there's actually a book out there called the Baby Owner's Manual and it's hilarious!! The chapter we've read several times so far is "programming sleep mode." It's written like an owner's manual for a stereo or a computer or something and has funny diagrams.)
We went to lunch with the birth mother at a meeting facilitated by the social worker. She is very nice, but oh so quiet. The social worker (since she came to the adoption agency a day before her due date) hasn't gotten to know her like she normally does with other birth mothers -- so we all aren't sure if she's reserved normally or if she's just got a lot going on through her head. We both imagine that this is such an emotional time that the latter definitely is at play to some degree. She held the baby throughout most of the lunch. Todd told her all about our Cumberland Island trip, as she is interested in hiking and camping.
We talked about how willing we are to having an open adoption, as this was a big concern of hers and her dad's. We talked about coming out here for visits (I'm thrilled b/c I LOVE it out here!) and potentially even flying her out for Mercer's 1st birthday. She's never flown.... so we'll have to talk about that one a little bit more as it gets closer. We have another facilitated meeting with her, her dad, and her 6 year old brother. The social worker actually suggests that I meet with her by myself at some point too and try to get to know her a little more. The social worker says that she opens up a bit more one-on-one and this is probably something we need. (It sure is nice having a "guide" through this part!)
I sacked out for 3 hours (yay!) while Todd folded laundry, fed, and changed his diaper. Todd's crashing now during my "shift"... and after I blog, I'm going to try to catch a few more zzzzz's while Mercer is dozing. We learned yesterday about swaddling. Today we were reading up on monitoring poo. Wednesday I think we need to tackle grooming (give little M a sponge bath -- maybe wash his hair -- and *gulp* clip his nails... scared to death to do that one, but I just bought some clippers today with a magnifying glass on the end).
Catch ya later. Thanks again for everyone's support and love. It's really great hearing from you.
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