well, i haven't written about this before... but i am having a bit of a hard time making the transition from the fertility treatments to the adoption process. books / literature / etc says that this is a sort of loss - grieving an unborn child. i felt this at first, then suppressed it with diving into work and stuff (even adoption stuff -- throwing my self right into it). but, for some reason (even though i'm still busy with work) i'm having a hard time with it again.
i started to see a counselor to talk to about it. never been to a counselor before. it's my yoga teacher who i'm seeing. i think her "real" profession is counseling (she's got all sorts of letters & titles behind her name) but i've always liked her from yoga (moreso than other yoga teachers who's classes i've taken) and i'm comfortable with her.
i may not write too much here b/c it's not private. i do have a positive attitude for the most part, but when i'm down... i'm down... and i don't want to convey that in my blog b/c it's not representative of how i feel. just know that -- sometimes -- it's tough.
c
Sunday, November 25, 2007
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
last weekend's post... MAJOR website progress!
I didn’t get a chance to blog after the last two weekends, but I need to. We’ve made SO much progress! Todd built a fire in the fireplace and we worked on adoption stuff ALL day Sunday (11th). We watched a tutorial on the website program we were going to use. We then tinkered around with a web template that I had found the previous weekend and we actually made 2 pages! It took a long time, but that’s ok…. After we figured out how to get it from the computer to the world wide web, we then stopped in that effort and focused on some homework that we had from the adoption consultant: making our profile book.
We wrote an opening statement. Next: a blurb about our lives together. I wrote down how I feel about Todd. He wrote down how he feels about me. We continued with how we envisioned life with a child. We wrote a blurb about family and friends. Then we wrote a blurb on our parenting philosophy, why were we live is a great place, and closed with a statement back to the birth mother. That took us into the night & we crashed shortly after.
All-in-all… it was a great day. We made a lot of progress and we got to do a little soul-searching to boot. Once the website is ready to roll, I’ll post it. An official “launch” party of sorts.
We wrote an opening statement. Next: a blurb about our lives together. I wrote down how I feel about Todd. He wrote down how he feels about me. We continued with how we envisioned life with a child. We wrote a blurb about family and friends. Then we wrote a blurb on our parenting philosophy, why were we live is a great place, and closed with a statement back to the birth mother. That took us into the night & we crashed shortly after.
All-in-all… it was a great day. We made a lot of progress and we got to do a little soul-searching to boot. Once the website is ready to roll, I’ll post it. An official “launch” party of sorts.
And -- since I didn't post this earlier - I should go ahead & report on what I did last weekend. Fri & Sat (16th - 17th) I was at my mom's after a work trip in NC. There were 20 pages worth of text that we had for the website... but I actually put it into pages. Todd & I designed & made the first two pages. After that, it was a breeze to make the others.
Granted -- there will need to be edits and photos -- but it is such a relief to have work to show for all that we've been thinking about doing! yay.
Gotta run. We're headed down to my dad's for Thanksgiving.
Later.
c
Saturday, November 10, 2007
saturday morning
i'm determined to have a great day today... last saturday - i was in a funk.
not much is progressing, honestly, as i've been working a lot. but, last night: a little glimmer of hope. todd watched some of the website tutorial with me. he's way more into computer stuff than i am - so i'm really going to be relying on him to help. i surfed a lot last saturday looking at sample websites. i downloaded the template for one i liked. now - with the software that our neighbor eric has loaned us - we need to learn how to modify it... then go one step further and actually upload it. i've got the content pretty much ready to go!
stay tuned. hopefully you'll hear screams of joy soon with the successful making of our site.
ps - a little more progress, i suppose: got a few more pics together. dinner out with friends last friday night & dinner out with a couple of girls this past wednesday. todd w/ pigg on the couch and todd playing golf (yesterday - his structural engineer that he hangs out with took him to play and took pics of him in his backswing!) ahhhh.... the photos are coming together.
over and out. c
not much is progressing, honestly, as i've been working a lot. but, last night: a little glimmer of hope. todd watched some of the website tutorial with me. he's way more into computer stuff than i am - so i'm really going to be relying on him to help. i surfed a lot last saturday looking at sample websites. i downloaded the template for one i liked. now - with the software that our neighbor eric has loaned us - we need to learn how to modify it... then go one step further and actually upload it. i've got the content pretty much ready to go!
stay tuned. hopefully you'll hear screams of joy soon with the successful making of our site.
ps - a little more progress, i suppose: got a few more pics together. dinner out with friends last friday night & dinner out with a couple of girls this past wednesday. todd w/ pigg on the couch and todd playing golf (yesterday - his structural engineer that he hangs out with took him to play and took pics of him in his backswing!) ahhhh.... the photos are coming together.
over and out. c
Thursday, November 1, 2007
The meeting went well
We were over-prepared for our meeting with the adoption consultant. Todd & I completed all sorts of forms -- which aren't due yet. That's ok. It will come in handy. Our instructions weren't clear, so I was stressed about filling out all of the forms we were instructed to download.
Some of the pictures that we liked -- they weren't so into. Some of the pictures they were into weren't our favorites, but that's ok. We'll still make the book our own. I really want to use excerpts from the great letters that we've received so far. One of the profile books we looked through had letters included. The adoption consultant said that was because it was a single person and that they needed a little something extra. We're going to pick a sentence or two from a few of them and find a place to include them.
We've paid the consultant a bit of money... but we'll save some bucks by designing the book & doing all of the photoshop stuff ourselves. Our schedule: get some more photographs of my family (I'll be in NC in two weeks and in Fla the following, so I should round it out). Write the verbiage & email it back / forth to the consultant so that they can edit it. Once we're done -- she will go ahead & put us in the pool of candidates! I think we can finish the book by the end of November!
Our next step: start the home study. This is something that you HAVE to do to work through an agency. She gave us a folder of information on a social worker that she likes and thought it would be a good fit because she just moved her office to Marietta from Douglasville. We'll begin that at the beginning of December. The consultant said that was good b/c we'd get a jump on the slew of people who want to start it in the new year.
We learned something by reading through all of the materials: to go with independent adoption, you don't have to have a home study done. We're going to pursue both -- just to see what yields faster results.
I guess that's all for now. 1 - work on Lifestyle Profile. 2 - complete Home Study. We'll have a handle on both by the end of the year. yay!
I'm going to crash (early). We were up late last night / early this morning to work on this stuff. G'night.
Some of the pictures that we liked -- they weren't so into. Some of the pictures they were into weren't our favorites, but that's ok. We'll still make the book our own. I really want to use excerpts from the great letters that we've received so far. One of the profile books we looked through had letters included. The adoption consultant said that was because it was a single person and that they needed a little something extra. We're going to pick a sentence or two from a few of them and find a place to include them.
We've paid the consultant a bit of money... but we'll save some bucks by designing the book & doing all of the photoshop stuff ourselves. Our schedule: get some more photographs of my family (I'll be in NC in two weeks and in Fla the following, so I should round it out). Write the verbiage & email it back / forth to the consultant so that they can edit it. Once we're done -- she will go ahead & put us in the pool of candidates! I think we can finish the book by the end of November!
Our next step: start the home study. This is something that you HAVE to do to work through an agency. She gave us a folder of information on a social worker that she likes and thought it would be a good fit because she just moved her office to Marietta from Douglasville. We'll begin that at the beginning of December. The consultant said that was good b/c we'd get a jump on the slew of people who want to start it in the new year.
We learned something by reading through all of the materials: to go with independent adoption, you don't have to have a home study done. We're going to pursue both -- just to see what yields faster results.
I guess that's all for now. 1 - work on Lifestyle Profile. 2 - complete Home Study. We'll have a handle on both by the end of the year. yay!
I'm going to crash (early). We were up late last night / early this morning to work on this stuff. G'night.
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